Today, I took a picture to the frame shop to be framed. Sometimes, a new frame makes a print seem like a whole new piece of art. On the way home I had a realization: I also need to reframe my attitude:
1. Instead of thinking, "I'll never get published," I should think...
I will get published when the time is right. But, it's not a matter of simply thinking good thoughts. I need to keep putting in the work: writing, revising, giving and getting critiques, going to conferences, reading, staying abreast of the industry. I know I'm a good writer with solid ideas. At some point, the right agent or publisher will realize it.
2. Instead of being jealous of people who have gotten agents, I should consider...
I am getting closer. Where I used to get nothing but generic "thanks for no thanks" emails, I've begun to receive some very nice "champagne" rejections. I've had several agents request more work. I need to believe that if I keep writing, keep revising and keep researching agents, I will eventually find the person who falls in love with my writing and wants to represent me.
3. Instead of wondering if I'm wasting my time writing books that nobody will ever read, I need to realize...
Writing fulfills an important creative outlet for me. While I (desperately) want to get published, I don't write to get published. I write because I have ideas that beg to emerge; I write because I like to; I write because I'm good at it.
Unlike picture reframing, attitude reframing is not a one-time process. It's an ongoing struggle, but an important one in maintaining my focus as a writer on the path to publication.